In any relationship there will be
ups and downs, happy and sad or crying moments, and even short or long term
quarrels. I guess these are all natural. But I think what’s important is the
decision you and your partner will make at the end of each day. As long as both
of you choose and decide to continue, even it means letting go of one’s pride
to resolve all the issues, I know, your relationship will be more beautiful and
will eventually last a lifetime. The best reason why to continue? It would be
love. Yes, it is because the love and care both of you have for each other is
the very foundation of your relationship. Never let it be neglected. Never let
it weaken. Or else, sooner or later, that once strong relationship will die.
I’ve been to in a relationship,
and still I am now. I’ve also heard and seen other people’s relationships. Some
are quite similar, others are totally different. But of all, what’s scares me and
makes me so sad that much are the times I am witnessing a dying relationship. It
would be harder to deal with if you’ve seen that dying relationship was once
strong and happy for a very long time before. But now, the magic was gone, not
even a glow at all. It seems the only things that’s left are pride and anger. I
can barely see the care for each other anymore. They don’t even chat like
lovers do. Actually, they don’t talk a lot now except if it’s about the cost of
living. It feels like the relationship they have now is just a responsibility. Even
though they’re both living at the same house, it feels like there is a division
– they have their own territory.
The bible says in 1 Corinthians
13:4-7, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it
is not proud. It does not dishonor
others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of
wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always
hopes, always perseveres.” As for what I can see and feel, they are no longer patient
with one another. They are easily angered. They always keep one’s record of
wrong to hurt the other’s feelings every time they have a quarrel. I have seen
that there’s jealousy that had been neglected. Thus, it resulted to too much anger
and then to the dishonor of other people. They always guard themselves with
pride that’s why most issues are still not resolved. The worst is it’s as if
they only care for themselves because they can’t even sympathize with the
affected individuals whenever they’re not okay. They just fight or shout at each
other whenever they wanted to without considering the feelings of the people
around them. Their perseverance to keep their relationship going feels like it’s
no longer out of love, but now only out of responsibility. I even feel like they
no longer seem to bother of protecting his/her partner from being hurt. Even
though there is trust, it’s as if there’s no hope.
But despite of all these, I still
hope and pray to God for the restoration of their relationship.
